It made me wonder about today, where families are so mixed up. Divorces, step-kids, half-brothers and sisters. . . I wondered where people choose to end up when it's their time. If your parents are divorced, and one is in Fresno and the other in Peoria, where do you chose to spend your eternity? If you were married three times, and had your kids with partner number one, do choose the family plot along with your ex and your kids, or do you choose to spend eternity with someone you maybe only knew a relatively few years?
This seems very complicated. What do you think?
In my genealogy research, I collect pictures of tombstones. Your picture with the article reminded me of one such tombstone where the wife's last name was different than the adjoining male partner. I found the reason being she had wed husband
ReplyDelete#2 and her survivors saw no reason to waste a perfectly good tombstone and burial spot that had been paid for.
I think you are obviously enjoying your time on the road away from it all. Oh what a feeling!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the reminder to think about this. I'll probably do what my father and one of my brothers have done; choose a place with great scenery. I never thought that was important until I visited my father's grave. It helped me a lot to have natural beauty to comfort me in my grieving.
ReplyDeleteTraditions start to fill some need. As time changes the need, the traditions change. In the grander scheme of things, does it really matter where our remains are placed? I've asked to cremated and have my ashes scatter along the beach of the lake we spend the summers on. I hope the impact on the world is more than a slab of granite with my name on it.
ReplyDeleteWe, too, choose cremation. As the only constant in ours lives has been our canine companions, we have chosen to have our ashes either scattered on their graves-they are buried in a pet cemetery-or buried with them. You can do that as the theory is your soul is gone when you die and are cremated so you can be buried in the pet cemetery. Not for everyone, but that's how we are going to handle it.
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't amount to a hill of beans where your bones and stones are. You won't know any different. Your legacy and memories are in the hearts and minds of the ones you leave behind. Make those great! The important thing is, where will your soul spend eternity.
ReplyDeleteYour dead and gone... what a scam funeral homes have fed us.. burn me and toss me to the wind....
ReplyDeleteSeems RV-ers have similar thoughts on these. Why is that? As do we. Both are to be cremated and ashes scattered. It's what we leave in the hearts and minds of others that counts.
ReplyDeleteWe are getting to the end of a 5 month and over 15000 across america trip. She is second generation Dane and One of the things we did was visit my wifes family and she was very happy to visit the places her grand parents from Denmark were buried and all the other relatives. She will be able to add this to the genealogy of her family she has been doing. I'm happy for her. Me, a different story for another time.
ReplyDeleteI feel if you are cremated you should have a marker some place so future generations can trace your existence. I know it means a lot to me to find the markers of family members of mine.
ReplyDeleteI wish to be cremated and my ashes scattered on the prairie pasture of my parents country place where I grew up...or if my kids want to split up the cremains..then I want urns shaped like "books"...and each of the kids can put me on their bookshelves (as we are a family of avid readers) As for a "marker"...maybe have my kids buy a bench with my name on it and donate it to the dog park...because animal rescue is my charity.
ReplyDeleteWe choose to be cremated as well.
ReplyDeleteI prefer to remember our loved ones as they smiled and lived life. When I saw my mother in law in open casket service, it upset me and the kids. She didn't look like herself. We prefer to think of her the way she actullay looked, and forget the make up they applied . As Bob Hope said, " Thanks for the memories!"
Interesting! Seems as though a lot of us posting here think the same. I enjoy doing genealogy and visiting the cemetaries where my ancestors are buried, but today is a different world. I too hope the presence of my touching the lives of others will be a good memory. My husband and I both want cremation and our ashes scattered at one of our favorite spots in California (where we met and married). Our souls will be in a better place. Our children will know where that spot is....but we hope they will remember us with love no matter where they are.
ReplyDeleteThe important thing is to choose Jesus Christ as our Savior and his forgiveness of sins. That decision will make your choice of where you spend eternity. That is who I choose for my hereafter
ReplyDeleteI choose to be converted to ash and scattered at my favorite place in all the world, Mission Hill Overlook. This is primarily so my survivors will have a place to link to me. My dear one is planning to be buried so we have chosen a city cemetery in our town where he is well known. In thinking of our placement, we both are thinking about a place for our survivors to relate to us, but once they are all gone, it won't matter much, as we are not famous or anything like that.
ReplyDeleteMy feeling is that those who have gone before me are always nearby so there isn't a need for a place to go and be near them. All that is buried is dust and bones. The spirit lives on forever and does not need a place to be confined. My thinking goes hand in hand with the full time RVing lifestyle we have enjoyed for the past 8 years. Don't fence me in!
ReplyDeleteIt seems that many of us have put a lot of thought into our after life. I will have my organs and everything else donated for somebody with a physical difficulty. This is my small way of trying to improve the world. Maybe they will come up with a cure for diabetes or cancer?
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